Arguments are such wicked things.
They really are.
Arguments happen only at such times when we are unwilling to give each other a chance.
Most of the time arguments are caused by the need of all sides to be contrary, to perversely pretend they don’t understand the exact, subtle -- or not so subtle -- meaning of the other person's words, when they really do understand if they would only choose to admit it. Why? In order to perpetuate the argument, of course.
And why, you might ask, would anyone want to do such a weird thing?
Well, often the act of arguing lets us vent a whole bunch of cooped up general irritation at the other person.
Thus, the need to argue is often a symptom of other unresolved issues.
Think about it the next time you argue -- you are not really discussing the point but are beating against the wall that is the other person.
Maybe it's time to stop and try another way?